Tradition is the illusion of permanence. ~Woody Allen
A few months ago we decided that we needed to get away for a few days, take a break from this crazy thing we call life. The girls had the whole week of Thanksgiving off and what a better time to get away from the madness if but for a while. So, we started coming up with lofty plans of driving down to the Keys to lounge and relax. We did not mention anything to the girls right away for we thought we might get some push back for breaking the tradition of cooking the big meal on the actual day. As we got closer to the actual dates we realized that it just was not going to work to get down to the southern most point. We decided to modify our plans and stay closer to home and simply go over to Orlando. We were going to spend the Thanksgiving holiday at SeaWorld. So we let the girls know what we were going to do and to our surprise they were thrilled. Here we thought that they would not like to be away on Thanksgiving but it actually turned out to be a great time for all.
As we moved into the month of December we realized it was going to be our second Christmas in Florida. It is still funny to be in flip flops while buying a Christmas tree or spending a day at the beach instead of Christmas shopping.
This year we had plenty of family visits prior to the big holiday so we could celebrate early with the kids and give them a bit of "days gone by." We still had the tree, the cookies, the presents and the songs. It got me thinking about this constant idea of tradition. It is hard to not be attached to the way things used to be.
I think that if there is one thing that moving to Florida has helped me with that is embracing change.
Breaking tradition does not mean you have to leave what you used to do in the dust but it gives you the freedom to improvise. From spending Thanksgiving at SeaWorld to playing Frisbee on the beach on Christmas Day, we are creating new experiences and memories.
One of the ten yoga principles for living - aparigraha (not grasping) is a great way to remind us to let go. Let go of how we think things should be, material items and even people. I remember when I first started practicing yoga over ten years ago hearing about this idea of aparigraha from one of my first yoga instructors. At that time in my life I did not realize how simple and profound it would be for me years later.
What makes me laugh even more is that I think my children understand the practice of aparigraha better than I do. Here I was all worried about going to Orlando for Thanksgiving and in the end they could not have been happier. I mean really, what child would pooh, pooh that? What was really going on was that I was the one having the hard time breaking the tradition of sitting around a table eating large quantities of food.
In the end, this holiday season has been full of laughter, love and a sense of peace within our family. Knowing that old traditions are not forgot but that new experiences are always available.
May the joy and love of this holiday season continue within our hearts for the months to come.
Namaste
Sunday, December 29, 2013
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Paradise Lost...and Found
Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls. - Joseph Campbell
A few months ago as I was writing one of my blog posts Mike made a comment about the name of my blog, "Yogi Girl in Paradise." He said, "Do you really think you are in paradise here?" Now as my husband says quite often in his sermons, you have to take his question within context. I think that day he had been stuck in terrible traffic on U.S. Highway 19 (a.k.a. the most poorly designed road in the U.S - seriously!) and probably did not make it to the beach that day as well. You see, Florida has its moments just like any other place in the world. There are things down here that drive us crazy, like traffic and miles of strip malls, but then we make it to the beach and all that disappears.
When I first decided to start this blog it was named more for the idea that I was moving from the cold of winter to the warm of summer year round. No more shoveling snow, I was going to live the "Salt Life." I actually knew very little about the area of Florida besides the fact that the weather is pretty awesome all year round and that the Gulf beaches are breathtaking. We were ready to experience a new way of living, we were excited for change. At that time my "paradise" was the adventure itself.
It has been a few months since Mike posed this question and I have kept the thought tucked in my brain for a while. What is paradise?
I think for many of us it is something tangible like a location. Yes, my physical paradise is the beach. I find a peaceful energy when I hear the roaring waves and smell the salt air.
As I have lived near my physical paradise I have grown to realize that paradise has become more of an internal place, a state of being over the physicality. Right away it ties back to the practice of yoga.
For many, the physical practice of yoga is what gives us joy. We can feel our physical body getting stronger and releasing tension. Yet, the asanas or postures of yoga are merely the beginning of the journey.
In Patanjali's Yoga Sutra, the eightfold path is called ashtanga (hence Ashtanga Yoga), which literally means "eight limbs." The eight limbs are guidelines on how to live a meaningful and purposeful life. They direct our attention toward one's health and they help us to acknowledge the spiritual aspects of our nature.
The asanas (the physical practice of yoga) is the third limb which falls towards the beginning of the eightfold path. What I find very interesting is what the final limb is and that is Samadhi. Samadhi is described as a state of ecstasy. At this stage, we transcend the Self altogether. We find the interconnectedness with all living things. Some might look at it as the experience of bliss and being at one with the Universe. I know, that sounds pretty out there but what if we made it simpler like examining what we really wanted to get out of our lives? Would we not want joy and freedom to be part of our lives? Patanjali describes this final path of desire for all human beings is for peace. This final path that is the ultimate stage of yoga, enlightenment, can neither be bought nor possessed. It can only be experienced.
So as I reflect upon the initial question about the name of my blog, I realize that it has evolved into so much more than a beach paradise but to a state of being. Just like our yoga practice over time becomes so much more than just the physical movements. We are searching for that inner peace, the ecstasy. I will say that it is not so much about the beach anymore but I will add that the sunshine and the sand between my toes does help with getting me closer to that peaceful paradise.
May the blissful light in me honor the blissful light in you.
Namaste
A few months ago as I was writing one of my blog posts Mike made a comment about the name of my blog, "Yogi Girl in Paradise." He said, "Do you really think you are in paradise here?" Now as my husband says quite often in his sermons, you have to take his question within context. I think that day he had been stuck in terrible traffic on U.S. Highway 19 (a.k.a. the most poorly designed road in the U.S - seriously!) and probably did not make it to the beach that day as well. You see, Florida has its moments just like any other place in the world. There are things down here that drive us crazy, like traffic and miles of strip malls, but then we make it to the beach and all that disappears.
When I first decided to start this blog it was named more for the idea that I was moving from the cold of winter to the warm of summer year round. No more shoveling snow, I was going to live the "Salt Life." I actually knew very little about the area of Florida besides the fact that the weather is pretty awesome all year round and that the Gulf beaches are breathtaking. We were ready to experience a new way of living, we were excited for change. At that time my "paradise" was the adventure itself.
It has been a few months since Mike posed this question and I have kept the thought tucked in my brain for a while. What is paradise?
I think for many of us it is something tangible like a location. Yes, my physical paradise is the beach. I find a peaceful energy when I hear the roaring waves and smell the salt air.
As I have lived near my physical paradise I have grown to realize that paradise has become more of an internal place, a state of being over the physicality. Right away it ties back to the practice of yoga.
For many, the physical practice of yoga is what gives us joy. We can feel our physical body getting stronger and releasing tension. Yet, the asanas or postures of yoga are merely the beginning of the journey.
In Patanjali's Yoga Sutra, the eightfold path is called ashtanga (hence Ashtanga Yoga), which literally means "eight limbs." The eight limbs are guidelines on how to live a meaningful and purposeful life. They direct our attention toward one's health and they help us to acknowledge the spiritual aspects of our nature.
The asanas (the physical practice of yoga) is the third limb which falls towards the beginning of the eightfold path. What I find very interesting is what the final limb is and that is Samadhi. Samadhi is described as a state of ecstasy. At this stage, we transcend the Self altogether. We find the interconnectedness with all living things. Some might look at it as the experience of bliss and being at one with the Universe. I know, that sounds pretty out there but what if we made it simpler like examining what we really wanted to get out of our lives? Would we not want joy and freedom to be part of our lives? Patanjali describes this final path of desire for all human beings is for peace. This final path that is the ultimate stage of yoga, enlightenment, can neither be bought nor possessed. It can only be experienced.
So as I reflect upon the initial question about the name of my blog, I realize that it has evolved into so much more than a beach paradise but to a state of being. Just like our yoga practice over time becomes so much more than just the physical movements. We are searching for that inner peace, the ecstasy. I will say that it is not so much about the beach anymore but I will add that the sunshine and the sand between my toes does help with getting me closer to that peaceful paradise.
May the blissful light in me honor the blissful light in you.
Namaste
Sunday, September 22, 2013
Change for the better, not the worse
Delicious autumn! My very soul is wedded to it, and if I were a bird I would fly about the earth seeking the successive autumns. -George Eliot
It is hard to believe that today is the first day of autumn when it is about 90 degrees and we are playing at the beach. Although I will admit that the breeze is a bit cooler and I can slowly feel the Florida humidity subsiding. Slowly being the key word.
I was doing a bit of reading the other day on Ayurveda. For those that are unfamiliar with Ayurveda here is a brief description:
Ayurveda, also known as Ayurvedic Medicine, is the traditional medicine of India, which originated there over 5,000 years ago. Ayurveda emphasizes re-establishing balance in the body through diet, lifestyle, exercise, and body cleansing, and on the health of the mind, body, and spirit. According to Ayurveda, everything is composed of five elements: air, water, fire, earth, and space. These elements combine to form the three doshas, vata, kapha, and pitta, or metabolic types. In Ayurveda, doshas account for some of our individual differences.
As we enter the season of autumn we start to experience change in the five elements which in turn affect our doshas. Depending on one's dosha, we may think about how this new season affects all aspects of our health. If you are interested in finding out what dosha you fall under you can take a dosha quiz to get a general idea.
Dosha Quiz
I know, some of you are going, what is this funky stuff she is rambling on about but as you start to delve into examining your own health, body, mind and spirit it is hard not to notice how everything is interconnected.
Right before my birthday I was feeling a case of the blahs both in body and mind. I just knew in my heart that a lot of it had to do with this coming of the fall equinox. As a long time Midwesterner, fall has always been my favorite season. I love the environmental changes that occur in Minnesota. The leaves start to change color, the breeze gets cooler and yes, you can smell the works of Mother Nature at hand.
I think that because the changes in Florida are so much more subtle that I was a bit down about my "new" fall season. So I needed something to pull me out of my funk. I needed to examine me.
So, this month I have been participating in the Yoga Journal 21 day yoga challenge. It is simply a self practice challenge but it has been just what I have needed. It has forced me to stay with my self practice and I must say that I have barely missed a day. This challenge has allowed me to turn inward and simply notice what is going on with me. How often do we take time for that? Probably for most of us not often enough.
My self practice has given me time each day to check in with my body. Since I use my body quite a bit within my career scope it can really take a beating. I have been able to work out kinks and just feel better all around. The biggest part of this self practice is that I get time to myself. Nothing but the sound of my breath flowing in and out of my body. I am taking time to focus within my heart and even if it is just for a few minutes a day, I feel more at peace.
One of the biggest things that Ayurveda says about the fall equinox is that we should stick to our usual schedules. Continue our normal routines. This can be challenging as we move into the busy season of holidays, parties and many times overindulgence. It makes sense that the more we stick to our normal schedules of exercise, diet, and sleep our bodies will be better equipped with the change of the season. As the days grow shorter and the weather a bit cooler, it is important that the body is balanced.
One of my favorite yoga sites had a good article this month on what we should pay attention to as we enter this autumn season. Take a look: http://www.yoganonymous.com/ayurveda-balance-vata-seasons-changing-tania-kazi/
So as we enter into this new, enchanting season of autumn, may we find balance within our hearts, our bodies, our minds and our spirits. May love flow freely through the changing leaves and the cooler breezes.
Namaste
It is hard to believe that today is the first day of autumn when it is about 90 degrees and we are playing at the beach. Although I will admit that the breeze is a bit cooler and I can slowly feel the Florida humidity subsiding. Slowly being the key word.
I was doing a bit of reading the other day on Ayurveda. For those that are unfamiliar with Ayurveda here is a brief description:
Ayurveda, also known as Ayurvedic Medicine, is the traditional medicine of India, which originated there over 5,000 years ago. Ayurveda emphasizes re-establishing balance in the body through diet, lifestyle, exercise, and body cleansing, and on the health of the mind, body, and spirit. According to Ayurveda, everything is composed of five elements: air, water, fire, earth, and space. These elements combine to form the three doshas, vata, kapha, and pitta, or metabolic types. In Ayurveda, doshas account for some of our individual differences.
As we enter the season of autumn we start to experience change in the five elements which in turn affect our doshas. Depending on one's dosha, we may think about how this new season affects all aspects of our health. If you are interested in finding out what dosha you fall under you can take a dosha quiz to get a general idea.
Dosha Quiz
I know, some of you are going, what is this funky stuff she is rambling on about but as you start to delve into examining your own health, body, mind and spirit it is hard not to notice how everything is interconnected.
Right before my birthday I was feeling a case of the blahs both in body and mind. I just knew in my heart that a lot of it had to do with this coming of the fall equinox. As a long time Midwesterner, fall has always been my favorite season. I love the environmental changes that occur in Minnesota. The leaves start to change color, the breeze gets cooler and yes, you can smell the works of Mother Nature at hand.
I think that because the changes in Florida are so much more subtle that I was a bit down about my "new" fall season. So I needed something to pull me out of my funk. I needed to examine me.
So, this month I have been participating in the Yoga Journal 21 day yoga challenge. It is simply a self practice challenge but it has been just what I have needed. It has forced me to stay with my self practice and I must say that I have barely missed a day. This challenge has allowed me to turn inward and simply notice what is going on with me. How often do we take time for that? Probably for most of us not often enough.
My self practice has given me time each day to check in with my body. Since I use my body quite a bit within my career scope it can really take a beating. I have been able to work out kinks and just feel better all around. The biggest part of this self practice is that I get time to myself. Nothing but the sound of my breath flowing in and out of my body. I am taking time to focus within my heart and even if it is just for a few minutes a day, I feel more at peace.
One of the biggest things that Ayurveda says about the fall equinox is that we should stick to our usual schedules. Continue our normal routines. This can be challenging as we move into the busy season of holidays, parties and many times overindulgence. It makes sense that the more we stick to our normal schedules of exercise, diet, and sleep our bodies will be better equipped with the change of the season. As the days grow shorter and the weather a bit cooler, it is important that the body is balanced.
One of my favorite yoga sites had a good article this month on what we should pay attention to as we enter this autumn season. Take a look: http://www.yoganonymous.com/ayurveda-balance-vata-seasons-changing-tania-kazi/
So as we enter into this new, enchanting season of autumn, may we find balance within our hearts, our bodies, our minds and our spirits. May love flow freely through the changing leaves and the cooler breezes.
Namaste
Tuesday, September 10, 2013
Another year older...
How old would you be if you didn't know how old you are? - Satchel Paige
I recently read an article by a woman who went through a real turning point in her life at age 36. She felt like she had not accomplished enough at the age that she had reached. She was looking for a way to bring more fulfillment to her life. The article was intriguing as I am currently turning 36 today and have been having similar feelings for the past few months.
The number of the birthday has never really matter that much to me. I still feel 21 in many ways. I might have a few more aches and pains, a few wrinkles and more things to worry about but overall I still feel young. I think what has been the hardest part for me this birthday is feeling like I am caught between those carefree younger years and the wise older years. I am currently in the "Put your head down and swim" years.
It got me thinking about something I read recently with regards to life and the process of change.
In India there is a traditional Hindu social model that underscores the change we continuously experience. Called the Ashramas, or Stages of Life, it defines four distinct periods in life, during which people can and should do certain things.
The first, brahmacharya (brahmic conduct), is the student stage, during which one learns about oneself and the world. I find that I am beyond this stage and yet I think we should always be in a constant quest to learn.
The second, grihastha (householder), is the stage of family and societal obligations. This is my current stage and yet I find myself wanting more.
The last two stages focus on renunciation. During the third, vanaprastha (forest dweller), one is freer to begin a contemplative life. And during stage four, samnyasa (renunciation), one goes deeper, surrendering all worldly things and living as a simple mendicant.
I think that in theory we would like to move from stage one to four in order and yet I do not know if that is possible. These stages are meant to help us accept change for we know that we will move from one stage to the other and that nothing is permanent.
As I review these stages I feel like I am at a crossroads. I have not fully let go of stage one and I don't know if I ever will. I am fully emerged in stage two but at times I feel that I desire stage three. Looking ahead for that freedom to continue on my future path and calling.
As Mike and I walked on the beach yesterday (my pre-birthday beach walk), we were discussing these four Stages of Life. He and I are both feeling the pull of stage two on our lives. We love the craziness of having a young family and yet we want more. We both are struggling with what is it that we need to make us happy.
I went back to the article from the woman who turned 36 and needed more in her life. She decided to set some personal goals for herself before she turned 40. Some of these things were professional but many were just things she wanted to do. It was inspiring to see what she was able to accomplish and she too had a young family but made it work.
So Mike and I declared a short list to each other as we walked along the beach and some are quite ambitious but many are simply quests that we could do as a family. Do you want to know our goals? Well, I have to keep you coming back for more so keep reading my blog and slowly the list will be revealed.
It was a bit more of a quiet birthday this year but I have a feeling they are just going to get bigger and better as the year's progress. Here is to another year older in body but forever young in spirit.
May the light in me honor the light in you.
Namaste
I recently read an article by a woman who went through a real turning point in her life at age 36. She felt like she had not accomplished enough at the age that she had reached. She was looking for a way to bring more fulfillment to her life. The article was intriguing as I am currently turning 36 today and have been having similar feelings for the past few months.
The number of the birthday has never really matter that much to me. I still feel 21 in many ways. I might have a few more aches and pains, a few wrinkles and more things to worry about but overall I still feel young. I think what has been the hardest part for me this birthday is feeling like I am caught between those carefree younger years and the wise older years. I am currently in the "Put your head down and swim" years.
It got me thinking about something I read recently with regards to life and the process of change.
In India there is a traditional Hindu social model that underscores the change we continuously experience. Called the Ashramas, or Stages of Life, it defines four distinct periods in life, during which people can and should do certain things.
The first, brahmacharya (brahmic conduct), is the student stage, during which one learns about oneself and the world. I find that I am beyond this stage and yet I think we should always be in a constant quest to learn.
The second, grihastha (householder), is the stage of family and societal obligations. This is my current stage and yet I find myself wanting more.
The last two stages focus on renunciation. During the third, vanaprastha (forest dweller), one is freer to begin a contemplative life. And during stage four, samnyasa (renunciation), one goes deeper, surrendering all worldly things and living as a simple mendicant.
I think that in theory we would like to move from stage one to four in order and yet I do not know if that is possible. These stages are meant to help us accept change for we know that we will move from one stage to the other and that nothing is permanent.
As I review these stages I feel like I am at a crossroads. I have not fully let go of stage one and I don't know if I ever will. I am fully emerged in stage two but at times I feel that I desire stage three. Looking ahead for that freedom to continue on my future path and calling.
As Mike and I walked on the beach yesterday (my pre-birthday beach walk), we were discussing these four Stages of Life. He and I are both feeling the pull of stage two on our lives. We love the craziness of having a young family and yet we want more. We both are struggling with what is it that we need to make us happy.
I went back to the article from the woman who turned 36 and needed more in her life. She decided to set some personal goals for herself before she turned 40. Some of these things were professional but many were just things she wanted to do. It was inspiring to see what she was able to accomplish and she too had a young family but made it work.
So Mike and I declared a short list to each other as we walked along the beach and some are quite ambitious but many are simply quests that we could do as a family. Do you want to know our goals? Well, I have to keep you coming back for more so keep reading my blog and slowly the list will be revealed.
It was a bit more of a quiet birthday this year but I have a feeling they are just going to get bigger and better as the year's progress. Here is to another year older in body but forever young in spirit.
May the light in me honor the light in you.
Namaste
Thursday, August 29, 2013
Unsettled
People wish to be settled; only as far as they are unsettled is there any hope for them. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
It is official; we are entering into our second year here in Florida. The first year, the honeymoon year, is always a whirlwind. Everything is new and you live by the mantra "This is the first..." Things still feel new in the second year but the nostalgia of it being the first has worn off. You still feel like the newbie but you can no longer truly wear that crown. You walk around confused, in between the world of those that know where there are going and those that are still completely lost. I call this the second year syndrome.
As the kids went back to school last week, Mike and I did our annual "Hurry, drop the kids off at school and let's go celebrate at the beach," day. We spent the morning walking on Clearwater beach while recapping our first full Florida summer. Let's see, it was hot, hot and did I mention humid? Like every summer vacation, it goes by too fast and yet going back to school is always exciting and new.
So as the kids embark on another new school year, as Mike has another exciting year ahead at his career, I too have a new year filled with more possibilities. I have been feeling an array of emotions since returning from Minnesota last month. It was a great trip but my feelings have been all over the place - happy, sad, anxious, bored, restless, and uneasy. Not sure where I am heading but I know I have things set ahead for me. After speaking with both my good friend Linda and my niece April, I finally figured out where I am; I am unsettled.
As the Buddha said, impermanence is the nature of the human condition. Many of us know this truth in our minds but tend to resist in our hearts. Change happens all around us, all the time, yet we long for the predictable, the consistent. We want the reassurance that comes from things remaining the same.
I have found myself going through this often in the last few weeks. I know a lot of it has to do with my current visit back to Minnesota. I was temporarily put back in "the way it used to be" mode. Then within a matter of hours I was transported back to my new way of life here in Florida. It is so easy to cling onto the memories of the past, especially when they are wonderful memories. Yet, I have had many exciting experiences so far here in Florida that I do not want to feel ungrateful for these opportunities.
"That first word is the key. The verse is intended to underscore the importance of the study of yoga right now. It encourages us to focus on what is happening to the body, mind, breath, and emotions in this moment. Now is a word that is powerful and sufficient enough by itself to be used as a life study, a sort of mantra. The ability to respond to now, to live in now, to enjoy each precious moment without clinging to it or pushing it away is the essence of spiritual practice. We can live to the fullest when we recognize that our suffering is based not on the fact of impermanence but rather on our reaction to that impermanence."
I know that things have changed, but it is how I have been reacting to these changes that are making me feel the many ways I do. I have some new avenues that I am about to travel down and I am resisting this change by feeling anxious and scared. Instead of brooding over the fact that "We ain't in Minnesota anymore," I should be embracing, "Yes, we are in Florida NOW!"
These feelings of being unsettled are real and will more than likely never go away for nothing is permanent, things are always changing. Maybe I should throw out the second year syndrome and go back to the honeymoon stage - but with eyes wide open for the here and now. I should treat every experience as if it were both the first and possibly the last time I could do it. Enjoy what is now for tomorrow might be something completely different (and maybe even better).
So as I walk forward with new opportunities this fall, watch my girls grow another year older and my husband spread his brilliant teachings to others, all I need to remember is to watch and then let go for I know something new is right up ahead of us again, and again, and again, and again...
May the ever changing light in my heart honor the ever changing light in yours.
Namaste
It is official; we are entering into our second year here in Florida. The first year, the honeymoon year, is always a whirlwind. Everything is new and you live by the mantra "This is the first..." Things still feel new in the second year but the nostalgia of it being the first has worn off. You still feel like the newbie but you can no longer truly wear that crown. You walk around confused, in between the world of those that know where there are going and those that are still completely lost. I call this the second year syndrome.
As the kids went back to school last week, Mike and I did our annual "Hurry, drop the kids off at school and let's go celebrate at the beach," day. We spent the morning walking on Clearwater beach while recapping our first full Florida summer. Let's see, it was hot, hot and did I mention humid? Like every summer vacation, it goes by too fast and yet going back to school is always exciting and new.
So as the kids embark on another new school year, as Mike has another exciting year ahead at his career, I too have a new year filled with more possibilities. I have been feeling an array of emotions since returning from Minnesota last month. It was a great trip but my feelings have been all over the place - happy, sad, anxious, bored, restless, and uneasy. Not sure where I am heading but I know I have things set ahead for me. After speaking with both my good friend Linda and my niece April, I finally figured out where I am; I am unsettled.
As the Buddha said, impermanence is the nature of the human condition. Many of us know this truth in our minds but tend to resist in our hearts. Change happens all around us, all the time, yet we long for the predictable, the consistent. We want the reassurance that comes from things remaining the same.
I have found myself going through this often in the last few weeks. I know a lot of it has to do with my current visit back to Minnesota. I was temporarily put back in "the way it used to be" mode. Then within a matter of hours I was transported back to my new way of life here in Florida. It is so easy to cling onto the memories of the past, especially when they are wonderful memories. Yet, I have had many exciting experiences so far here in Florida that I do not want to feel ungrateful for these opportunities.
I recently came across an article from Judith Hanson Lasater explaining certain verses of Patanjali's Yoga Sutras. She uses the first verse that is translated "Now is an exposition on yoga." Lasater does a good job at explaining what we should really be focusing on in this verse:
I know that things have changed, but it is how I have been reacting to these changes that are making me feel the many ways I do. I have some new avenues that I am about to travel down and I am resisting this change by feeling anxious and scared. Instead of brooding over the fact that "We ain't in Minnesota anymore," I should be embracing, "Yes, we are in Florida NOW!"
These feelings of being unsettled are real and will more than likely never go away for nothing is permanent, things are always changing. Maybe I should throw out the second year syndrome and go back to the honeymoon stage - but with eyes wide open for the here and now. I should treat every experience as if it were both the first and possibly the last time I could do it. Enjoy what is now for tomorrow might be something completely different (and maybe even better).
So as I walk forward with new opportunities this fall, watch my girls grow another year older and my husband spread his brilliant teachings to others, all I need to remember is to watch and then let go for I know something new is right up ahead of us again, and again, and again, and again...
May the ever changing light in my heart honor the ever changing light in yours.
Namaste
Tuesday, July 30, 2013
Home(s)
Where we love is home - home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts. - Oliver Wendell Holmes
As I was walking on the beach tonight I was approached by a couple that asked me, "Are you from here?' My immediate response was, "Yes, I am." They asked me for information on the area and I talked with them about some of the best beaches to see while down here on vacation. It was a nice conversation and then I went along my way to finish my beach walk and see the sunset.
As I continued on my walk I realized that this was the first time since moving down here that I had claimed Florida as my home. I did not hesitate as I was asked tonight and I really felt like I kind of knew the area well enough to hand out advice on where to go.
I started thinking; can you have more than one home? Where is my home? Minnesota or Florida?
We just returned from our summer vacation to Minnesota. As we traveled back to visit family and friends in Minnesota, Mike and I did a recap of our first year in Florida. One of the main things we talked about was how many people we have met over the course of this past year. If we had never moved to Florida we would have never met all these amazing people.
It was also our first ever "warm" winter. We definitely did not miss shoveling snow or dealing with winter driving. Yes, we do not mind being called beach bums!
There are things we miss about our Minnesota home. Visiting Minnesota this summer gave us a lot of time to reconnect with family and friends. We truly had an awesome time experiencing our old way of life. I drove around the cities like I had for the previous 34 years, ate at favorite restaurants, had a "cabin" day and just lived the Midwest life. I will not lie; it will always feel like home but not because of the place itself but for the relationships and the experiences.
Yet, by the end of vacation we were all saying, "I want to get home." We missed our little place in Florida, our beds, the salt air and just our way of life now down here.
So the big question is can you have more than one home? Literally yes, own as many dwellings as you like but what I really think it means is that home is what we make of it. Some people really need that physical structure that makes them feel comfortable and safe. Others need to surround themselves with people and human connections. I also think that simple time is what is needed to feel comfortable and to get that home feeling.
I once heard someone in a yoga class say that they called Extended Child's pose home. This pose is a surrendering pose and how appropriate to call it home. Where else can you totally relax and just be yourself but at home. I sometimes suggest that the more we come back to downward facing dog throughout practice the more it feels like a home posture and not so much of a working posture.
I know I will always call Minnesota home for that is where I was born and raised, there my family still lives and where familiar and loving experiences still exist. Florida is my current home where I am slowly starting to feel like I belong, am a part of a new experience and am excited for the possibility of expanding my horizons.
As I was walking on the beach tonight I was approached by a couple that asked me, "Are you from here?' My immediate response was, "Yes, I am." They asked me for information on the area and I talked with them about some of the best beaches to see while down here on vacation. It was a nice conversation and then I went along my way to finish my beach walk and see the sunset.
As I continued on my walk I realized that this was the first time since moving down here that I had claimed Florida as my home. I did not hesitate as I was asked tonight and I really felt like I kind of knew the area well enough to hand out advice on where to go.
I started thinking; can you have more than one home? Where is my home? Minnesota or Florida?
We just returned from our summer vacation to Minnesota. As we traveled back to visit family and friends in Minnesota, Mike and I did a recap of our first year in Florida. One of the main things we talked about was how many people we have met over the course of this past year. If we had never moved to Florida we would have never met all these amazing people.
It was also our first ever "warm" winter. We definitely did not miss shoveling snow or dealing with winter driving. Yes, we do not mind being called beach bums!
There are things we miss about our Minnesota home. Visiting Minnesota this summer gave us a lot of time to reconnect with family and friends. We truly had an awesome time experiencing our old way of life. I drove around the cities like I had for the previous 34 years, ate at favorite restaurants, had a "cabin" day and just lived the Midwest life. I will not lie; it will always feel like home but not because of the place itself but for the relationships and the experiences.
Yet, by the end of vacation we were all saying, "I want to get home." We missed our little place in Florida, our beds, the salt air and just our way of life now down here.
So the big question is can you have more than one home? Literally yes, own as many dwellings as you like but what I really think it means is that home is what we make of it. Some people really need that physical structure that makes them feel comfortable and safe. Others need to surround themselves with people and human connections. I also think that simple time is what is needed to feel comfortable and to get that home feeling.
I once heard someone in a yoga class say that they called Extended Child's pose home. This pose is a surrendering pose and how appropriate to call it home. Where else can you totally relax and just be yourself but at home. I sometimes suggest that the more we come back to downward facing dog throughout practice the more it feels like a home posture and not so much of a working posture.
I know I will always call Minnesota home for that is where I was born and raised, there my family still lives and where familiar and loving experiences still exist. Florida is my current home where I am slowly starting to feel like I belong, am a part of a new experience and am excited for the possibility of expanding my horizons.
As I started thinking about the idea of having more than one home I thought this summed it up quite well:
Never make your home in a place. Make a home for yourself inside your own head. You'll find what you need to furnish it - memory, friends you can trust, love of learning, and other such things. That way it will go with you wherever you journey. - Tad Williams
May the home in my heart honor the home in yours.
Namaste
Thursday, June 27, 2013
Mixed Emotions
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. - Wayne Dyer
Our one year anniversary of becoming Floridian's is upon us. On July 6th we will have been here in the sunny state of Florida for exactly one year. So what are we doing to celebrate? We are getting in our car and heading up to visit good old Minnesota. It feels strange to say that I am spending my vacation in Minnesota - this is something I never thought I would say. Do not get me wrong, I love Minnesota but after living there for 34 years it was always home, not a vacation destination.
I have to laugh a bit for we now live in a state that is a vacation destination and every time I walk on the beach I think, this is so cool. Sometimes I still feel like I am on vacation. I have grown accustomed to my beach walks, my constant application of SPF and even those palmetto bugs are old hat now.
So with this pending trip ahead of us I must say that I am a bit anxious. I am excited to see all my family and friends but I wonder how I am going to feel. I have not seen some of my family members for over a year. This is the longest I have ever gone in my entire life without seeing them. How are my kids going to react to going back to Minnesota? Will I not want to leave? Will I be excited to come back to Florida? So many questions - ah!
I was on the phone this past week with a college friend who I plan on seeing on my trip and I said to her, "I might cry." I just know it is going to be an emotional trip. As I write this blog passage I am actually starting to feel alright about it being emotional. I believe that relationships are the most crucial part of being human. So, experiencing joy of reconnecting and sorrow of living far away are simply responses to my own humanity.
I have been trying my hardest to keep up with my personal yoga practice to help me stay centered through these next few weeks. I came across a nice article about yoga and anxiety. We live in a culture that tends to create a lot of anxiety and stress. So, sometimes it is something as simple as taking a few moments to breathe deeply and move freely with our bodies that helps us calm down. Take a look at the article if you are looking for actual postures that are helpful for this:
Yoga poses for anxiety
I am truly excited to spend my summer vacation with my family and friends. I know I will have a ton of fun, laughing (and maybe crying), reconnecting and remembering what matters to me most. Nurturing human relationships should always be emotional; otherwise it simply is just "someone I know."
May the love in my heart honor the love in yours,
Namaste
P.S. Minnesota peeps, call, text or email me if you want to get together while we are up in MN. Please keep the mosquitoes to a minimum!
Our one year anniversary of becoming Floridian's is upon us. On July 6th we will have been here in the sunny state of Florida for exactly one year. So what are we doing to celebrate? We are getting in our car and heading up to visit good old Minnesota. It feels strange to say that I am spending my vacation in Minnesota - this is something I never thought I would say. Do not get me wrong, I love Minnesota but after living there for 34 years it was always home, not a vacation destination.
I have to laugh a bit for we now live in a state that is a vacation destination and every time I walk on the beach I think, this is so cool. Sometimes I still feel like I am on vacation. I have grown accustomed to my beach walks, my constant application of SPF and even those palmetto bugs are old hat now.
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| One of our favorite places just 10 minutes from our home: Honeymoon Island State Park Mike caught this picture of me doing what I love the most - walking on the beach! |
So with this pending trip ahead of us I must say that I am a bit anxious. I am excited to see all my family and friends but I wonder how I am going to feel. I have not seen some of my family members for over a year. This is the longest I have ever gone in my entire life without seeing them. How are my kids going to react to going back to Minnesota? Will I not want to leave? Will I be excited to come back to Florida? So many questions - ah!
I was on the phone this past week with a college friend who I plan on seeing on my trip and I said to her, "I might cry." I just know it is going to be an emotional trip. As I write this blog passage I am actually starting to feel alright about it being emotional. I believe that relationships are the most crucial part of being human. So, experiencing joy of reconnecting and sorrow of living far away are simply responses to my own humanity.
I have been trying my hardest to keep up with my personal yoga practice to help me stay centered through these next few weeks. I came across a nice article about yoga and anxiety. We live in a culture that tends to create a lot of anxiety and stress. So, sometimes it is something as simple as taking a few moments to breathe deeply and move freely with our bodies that helps us calm down. Take a look at the article if you are looking for actual postures that are helpful for this:
Yoga poses for anxiety
I am truly excited to spend my summer vacation with my family and friends. I know I will have a ton of fun, laughing (and maybe crying), reconnecting and remembering what matters to me most. Nurturing human relationships should always be emotional; otherwise it simply is just "someone I know."
May the love in my heart honor the love in yours,
Namaste
P.S. Minnesota peeps, call, text or email me if you want to get together while we are up in MN. Please keep the mosquitoes to a minimum!
Friday, May 31, 2013
A change of scenery
He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery. -Harold Wilson
It has been helpful to have the beautiful distraction of the Gulf and the mild weather these past eleven months to assist with our big move. It is hard to believe that we are just a few weeks away from completing our first full year in Florida. I can truly say it has been life-changing. Actually, what it has really made me do is examine the process of change and how every person handles it differently.
As I look at my family, I can say that we have each adjusted well. A lot of this has to do with the fact that we have each other. Our relocation to Florida basically forced us to be a close family. We were always very involved with our kids, doing things together but since moving down here that has been the main focus. Whether we head to the beach or to the fruit stand, we do it together.
Both Mike and I have been fortunate to have careers that we could jump right into once we arrived. I cannot express how important my teaching and training at the YMCA has kept me connected and alive. I am thankful to have a place where I can practice my skills and help people each and every day.
The girls have settled so well into their new school and have met some very fun friends. We were invited to a Memorial Day party of one of Chloe's classmates and it was so nice to hang out with other people who have gone through similar experiences like us. We kind of like the new Memorial Day tradition of a pool party!
So I thought again over Memorial Day weekend about my client who always headed to the cabin. Yeah, we used to do similar things like heading to the cabin as well living in Minnesota but now we have other things we can do. Sometimes it is important to change things up, give something else a try. It all goes back to how we handle change. I could wallow in the fact that I am not in Minnesota or I can embrace that fact that I am about 10 minutes away from one of the best beaches in the whole U.S.A. Things change and thank goodness they do. It is not always easy but it is definitely doable.
Walking on the beach a few times per week has become a great way for me calm my mind and enjoy my change of scenery. This journey has not been all rainbows and kittens but it has been a beautiful adventure so far. I look forward to completing my first year and am excited to see what the next year brings us.
May the light in me honor the light in you.
Namaste
P.S. I am happy to report that my client did end up going to the beach on Memorial Day weekend!
I was training a client the other day and I asked her what she was doing for Memorial Day weekend. She recently moved to Florida as well and her response was "I don't know. I was so used to going to the cabin where I used to live that I don't know what I am supposed to do down here." I thought that was kind of funny for my gut response to her was "Go to the beach of course!"
It has been helpful to have the beautiful distraction of the Gulf and the mild weather these past eleven months to assist with our big move. It is hard to believe that we are just a few weeks away from completing our first full year in Florida. I can truly say it has been life-changing. Actually, what it has really made me do is examine the process of change and how every person handles it differently.
As I look at my family, I can say that we have each adjusted well. A lot of this has to do with the fact that we have each other. Our relocation to Florida basically forced us to be a close family. We were always very involved with our kids, doing things together but since moving down here that has been the main focus. Whether we head to the beach or to the fruit stand, we do it together.
Both Mike and I have been fortunate to have careers that we could jump right into once we arrived. I cannot express how important my teaching and training at the YMCA has kept me connected and alive. I am thankful to have a place where I can practice my skills and help people each and every day.
The girls have settled so well into their new school and have met some very fun friends. We were invited to a Memorial Day party of one of Chloe's classmates and it was so nice to hang out with other people who have gone through similar experiences like us. We kind of like the new Memorial Day tradition of a pool party!
So I thought again over Memorial Day weekend about my client who always headed to the cabin. Yeah, we used to do similar things like heading to the cabin as well living in Minnesota but now we have other things we can do. Sometimes it is important to change things up, give something else a try. It all goes back to how we handle change. I could wallow in the fact that I am not in Minnesota or I can embrace that fact that I am about 10 minutes away from one of the best beaches in the whole U.S.A. Things change and thank goodness they do. It is not always easy but it is definitely doable.
Walking on the beach a few times per week has become a great way for me calm my mind and enjoy my change of scenery. This journey has not been all rainbows and kittens but it has been a beautiful adventure so far. I look forward to completing my first year and am excited to see what the next year brings us.
May the light in me honor the light in you.
Namaste
P.S. I am happy to report that my client did end up going to the beach on Memorial Day weekend!
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
The big stuff
Life is so constructed, that the event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation. - Charlotte Bronte
It has been a busy month for the MacMillan family. From guests in town to celebrating Chloe's birthday, we have had our fill of big events. For a moment I breathe a sigh of relief and say, "We made it through the big stuff." The big stuff referring to our first Florida Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and of course birthdays.
I have struggled with the idea of having the "perfect" moments for my kids. I think a mixture of guilt from moving them 1500 miles away from their original home and my striving for perfection have put me in an anxious mode these past few months. Luckily I have a husband, family and friends that keep me grounded. They remind me that I am doing the best that I can for my kids and at the end of the day, I know they are given all the love and support that they need from me. So, as I have gotten a few of these big events here in Florida under my belt I have realized that it always works out and just being together makes it a great event.
It was so fun to watch Chloe and all her little kindergarten friends swim and play at her birthday party. It was not a huge spectical and yet at the end of the day Chloe was so happy. That was all that mattered and it brought a smile to my heart.
We have had so many fun times here in Florida and a lot of those revolve around the beach. My oldest sister was in town a few weeks ago and we of course made the great drive to Clearwater Beach. It was the week of the Sandcastle Sculptures and that was really neat to see. We are used to seeing snow castles but this year we traded that in for sand instead.
I have spent a lot of my time and energy on worrying about how the big events would turn out that I let that shadow these fun adventures. It is always a work in progress, the test of patience, letting go of expectation and just enjoying the ride.
I used to say this to many of my yoga students, "Practice makes better (not perfect)." I think that this can be applied to all areas of life. There are always going to be good days and maybe not so good days. This goes for on and off the yoga mat.
After you practice yoga for a while you start to realize that there are days where just rolling out the mat is about all our practice will involve. I had a good realization last week during my own yoga practice, "What happens on the mat, stays on the mat." Our yoga practice is just that, our own. So are the big and not so big events in our lives - they are always ours.
So, I will continue to practice the art of patience, striving to simply be better (not perfect) and enjoying this sun-filled ride.
May the light in me honor the light in you,
Namaste
It has been a busy month for the MacMillan family. From guests in town to celebrating Chloe's birthday, we have had our fill of big events. For a moment I breathe a sigh of relief and say, "We made it through the big stuff." The big stuff referring to our first Florida Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and of course birthdays.
I have struggled with the idea of having the "perfect" moments for my kids. I think a mixture of guilt from moving them 1500 miles away from their original home and my striving for perfection have put me in an anxious mode these past few months. Luckily I have a husband, family and friends that keep me grounded. They remind me that I am doing the best that I can for my kids and at the end of the day, I know they are given all the love and support that they need from me. So, as I have gotten a few of these big events here in Florida under my belt I have realized that it always works out and just being together makes it a great event.
It was so fun to watch Chloe and all her little kindergarten friends swim and play at her birthday party. It was not a huge spectical and yet at the end of the day Chloe was so happy. That was all that mattered and it brought a smile to my heart.
We have had so many fun times here in Florida and a lot of those revolve around the beach. My oldest sister was in town a few weeks ago and we of course made the great drive to Clearwater Beach. It was the week of the Sandcastle Sculptures and that was really neat to see. We are used to seeing snow castles but this year we traded that in for sand instead.
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| Girls in front of a sand sculpture at Clearwater Beach |
I used to say this to many of my yoga students, "Practice makes better (not perfect)." I think that this can be applied to all areas of life. There are always going to be good days and maybe not so good days. This goes for on and off the yoga mat.
After you practice yoga for a while you start to realize that there are days where just rolling out the mat is about all our practice will involve. I had a good realization last week during my own yoga practice, "What happens on the mat, stays on the mat." Our yoga practice is just that, our own. So are the big and not so big events in our lives - they are always ours.
So, I will continue to practice the art of patience, striving to simply be better (not perfect) and enjoying this sun-filled ride.
May the light in me honor the light in you,
Namaste
Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Springing forward for a sharper mind
The mind can go in a thousand directions, but on this beautiful path, I walk in peace. With each step, the wind blows. With each step, a flower blooms. - Thich Nhat Hanh
The progression of the seasons is evident in so many ways. We see it in our natural surroundings, the birds singing, the trees blooming, the days are lighter and longer. I feel like spring is the new "New Year's." Time to consider changes for us, out with the old and in with the new - yoga practices.
On Tuesdays and Thursdays I instruct a Yoga Intro class which is then followed with fifteen minutes of guided meditation. I simply love these classes. I am amazed at the openness and willingness of the participants. Many of the participants are well over 60; many quite limited in their movements and yet so dedicated to coming week after week.
The class is simply inspiring and makes me proud of where anyone can go, no matter what age, shape or form. I think what makes the class so awesome is how so many people stay for the fifteen minutes of meditation. This is where the real work begins and today I was reminded of how important it is to "try something new."
I have evolved over my 13 years of teaching. I used to think that yoga was just about the poses, hard work and pushing to that final expression of the pose. Well, in today’s practice we mostly focused on standing postures using a chair for assistance. We move at a slower pace, really focusing on getting into the postures and changing them for each person's needs. We spend quite a bit of time on learning how to really breathe - finding a complete inhale and exhale. Finally settling into our savasana. Most of us can get down to the floor but those that cannot stay in their chairs and simply find their own state of calm.
Today's guided meditation was given to me by a fellow instructor. I really liked it so I thought I would try it out on the class. The meditation is a memory meditation and involves some vocalizing. Being the old "asana only" yogi for so many years you must know that chanting and oming is still a bit "out there for me." Although I like to think that it is the people in the class that won't like it, I think I have used that as a cover up for my own insecurities with this process.
So, I thought what the heck let's try out this meditation and see how people react.
The idea is that you say the sounds "Sa, Ta, Na, Ma" while touching your thumbs to a corresponding finger. "Sa" goes with thumb and index finger, "Ta" with thumb and middle finger, "Na" with thumb and ring finger, "Ma" with thumb and pinky finger. The first two minutes you say the syllables out loud while lightly touching the corresponding finger, the next two minutes you whisper the syllables, the next four minutes you say them silently in your head, the next two minutes return to whispering, and the final two minutes back to saying them out loud. It should take about twelve minutes give or take. You also really want to draw out the "ah" sound with each syllable.
The meditation itself is quite simple and very soothing. So how did the class respond? Quite well indeed. Everyone was saying the words, some louder than others but no one walked out (which is always an instructor's biggest fear, well that and someone getting hurt). Everyone left at the end with a great yogi smile and a calming nature.
This meditation was conducted on a group of people through an Alzheimer’s study. They did this memory meditation everyday for 8 weeks and found amazing results showing increased blood flow to the area of the brain that holds memory.
I just finished reading Sanjay Gupta's "Chasing Life." It is a great read on how to live the fullest life we can with what we have before us. I felt great about my role so far in the exercise and diet areas (although there is always room for improvement!), but when he started talking about lowering our stress levels and exercising our brains I felt like a slouch. This memory meditation is something that I can do for the next few weeks. Conducting it with my class as well as doing it on my own. I know this area I need to grow and change comes from within. I cannot control very much in life but I can take a lead on trying to make my life the most abundant it can be with the tools I have at hand.
So we come back to this new season of spring and my goal is to take better care of my mind and spirit. I need this calming breath and focus as I jump into tax season!
Allow this spring season to open our hearts, minds and spirits to something new. I leave you with a simple song of "Sa, Ta, Na, Ma."
May the springtime light in me honor the springtime light in you.
Namaste.
The progression of the seasons is evident in so many ways. We see it in our natural surroundings, the birds singing, the trees blooming, the days are lighter and longer. I feel like spring is the new "New Year's." Time to consider changes for us, out with the old and in with the new - yoga practices.
On Tuesdays and Thursdays I instruct a Yoga Intro class which is then followed with fifteen minutes of guided meditation. I simply love these classes. I am amazed at the openness and willingness of the participants. Many of the participants are well over 60; many quite limited in their movements and yet so dedicated to coming week after week.
The class is simply inspiring and makes me proud of where anyone can go, no matter what age, shape or form. I think what makes the class so awesome is how so many people stay for the fifteen minutes of meditation. This is where the real work begins and today I was reminded of how important it is to "try something new."
I have evolved over my 13 years of teaching. I used to think that yoga was just about the poses, hard work and pushing to that final expression of the pose. Well, in today’s practice we mostly focused on standing postures using a chair for assistance. We move at a slower pace, really focusing on getting into the postures and changing them for each person's needs. We spend quite a bit of time on learning how to really breathe - finding a complete inhale and exhale. Finally settling into our savasana. Most of us can get down to the floor but those that cannot stay in their chairs and simply find their own state of calm.
Today's guided meditation was given to me by a fellow instructor. I really liked it so I thought I would try it out on the class. The meditation is a memory meditation and involves some vocalizing. Being the old "asana only" yogi for so many years you must know that chanting and oming is still a bit "out there for me." Although I like to think that it is the people in the class that won't like it, I think I have used that as a cover up for my own insecurities with this process.
So, I thought what the heck let's try out this meditation and see how people react.
The idea is that you say the sounds "Sa, Ta, Na, Ma" while touching your thumbs to a corresponding finger. "Sa" goes with thumb and index finger, "Ta" with thumb and middle finger, "Na" with thumb and ring finger, "Ma" with thumb and pinky finger. The first two minutes you say the syllables out loud while lightly touching the corresponding finger, the next two minutes you whisper the syllables, the next four minutes you say them silently in your head, the next two minutes return to whispering, and the final two minutes back to saying them out loud. It should take about twelve minutes give or take. You also really want to draw out the "ah" sound with each syllable.
The meditation itself is quite simple and very soothing. So how did the class respond? Quite well indeed. Everyone was saying the words, some louder than others but no one walked out (which is always an instructor's biggest fear, well that and someone getting hurt). Everyone left at the end with a great yogi smile and a calming nature.
This meditation was conducted on a group of people through an Alzheimer’s study. They did this memory meditation everyday for 8 weeks and found amazing results showing increased blood flow to the area of the brain that holds memory.
I just finished reading Sanjay Gupta's "Chasing Life." It is a great read on how to live the fullest life we can with what we have before us. I felt great about my role so far in the exercise and diet areas (although there is always room for improvement!), but when he started talking about lowering our stress levels and exercising our brains I felt like a slouch. This memory meditation is something that I can do for the next few weeks. Conducting it with my class as well as doing it on my own. I know this area I need to grow and change comes from within. I cannot control very much in life but I can take a lead on trying to make my life the most abundant it can be with the tools I have at hand.
So we come back to this new season of spring and my goal is to take better care of my mind and spirit. I need this calming breath and focus as I jump into tax season!
Allow this spring season to open our hearts, minds and spirits to something new. I leave you with a simple song of "Sa, Ta, Na, Ma."
May the springtime light in me honor the springtime light in you.
Namaste.
Tuesday, February 19, 2013
Oh the places we have been...
A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. - Albert Einstein
The other day as I was cleaning, like the good Virgo that I am, I got to thinking about greater things in my life that I have tried that are beyond simply having a presentable home. What have I done so far in this life of mine? We tend to dwell so much on the things we have not done that we fail to see all that has been accomplished. So here are a few things that came to mind for me:
1. I totally forgot that right out of college I tried out for the Minnesota Opera. Seriously, I had a music minor degree and I knew I would not make it into even a chorus role but I was young and it was a great opportunity. I got professional pictures taken and everything. I did not get a call back but at least I could say I tried. I am sure that the young diva in me said something like, "Their loss, wait until I am famous..."
2. I kissed the Blarney Stone in Ireland on Saint Patrick's Day. Yes, I made the hike up the famous castle, let some old Irish guy hang onto me as I bent backwards (my pre-yoga days) and thankfully did not contract any diseases in the process. It is true; I have the gift of gab and luckily a strong immune system!
3. I hung out with actual Welch Rubgy players in Wales. To be real honest, they might not have been rugby players but they were Welch and a ton of fun! I recommend that anyone in college take advantage of traveling abroad - it will change your life.
4. I have roughed it in the wilderness in the BWCA (Boundary Waters Canoe Area) in northern Minnesota. No phones, beds, or running water. I carried 50 pound packs on my back, canoes, pumped water to drink, and made food over a campfire. It was some of the toughest work I have ever done and also the most satisfying. On one of those trips I also went cliff jumping . Thanks to our fearless leader Nancy for she jumped first to make sure it was safe. It was a total rush and I want to do it again. As much as I love sitting by the beach relaxing, there is something awesome about roughing it.
5. I married a man who respects me and my dreams. He is a generous and compassionate person who has the same desire to do well in this world. He loves his daughters and would lay down his life for any of us. This is a true gift.
6. I completed my first ever triathlon when I was six months pregnant. I remember kissing my husband before the race and he looked at me and said, "Be safe." I knew he was going to be a good dad right at that moment. I crossed the finish line with my friend Jen in under two hours. I recall taking a two hour nap and then we headed down to Murray's Steak house for the famous butter knife steak. Nothing better then earning a fine meal.
7. I bruised my ribs in a boogie board accident in Hawaii. One of the most painful injuries in my recent history but well worth the embarrassing memories (and six-plus week recovery!).
8. I had two natural childbirths. To some this might not seem like much but to those that have given birth - it is a big deal! Thank goodness for yoga and breathing. I am thankful for a strong body and two healthy children.
9. I found a career where when I come home I feel like I have made a difference in my community. I am a role model, a motivator and I hope that people view me as a good person.
10. I moved to Florida before I was 65!
I could go on with more things but the point is to do a quick reflection. This can easily tie into the practice of yoga. Many times we offer a pose to try for participants and a lot of people simply say, " I cannot do that." What we need to realize is that the final look of any pose is always a journey. One person's trikonasana is not another's. There is not one defined way to reach a pose, we each get there at our own pace and with our own abilities. I think that is why I have been so drawn to yoga over the years, there are not absolutes, just suggestions. Like life, yoga is not about what we have not done but where we have been and are continuing to go with our practice.
So, to all of us who are still trying to figure out what we are going to do when we grow up, stop worrying, reflect upon what we have done so far and enjoy the journey. Work and play hard and before we know it, work and play become the same thing. Try that funky yoga pose, go sky-diving (or something outside our comfort zone), hug the ones you love AND hug those that challenge us for they need it, too.
May the light in my heart honor the light in your heart.
Namaste
The other day as I was cleaning, like the good Virgo that I am, I got to thinking about greater things in my life that I have tried that are beyond simply having a presentable home. What have I done so far in this life of mine? We tend to dwell so much on the things we have not done that we fail to see all that has been accomplished. So here are a few things that came to mind for me:
1. I totally forgot that right out of college I tried out for the Minnesota Opera. Seriously, I had a music minor degree and I knew I would not make it into even a chorus role but I was young and it was a great opportunity. I got professional pictures taken and everything. I did not get a call back but at least I could say I tried. I am sure that the young diva in me said something like, "Their loss, wait until I am famous..."
2. I kissed the Blarney Stone in Ireland on Saint Patrick's Day. Yes, I made the hike up the famous castle, let some old Irish guy hang onto me as I bent backwards (my pre-yoga days) and thankfully did not contract any diseases in the process. It is true; I have the gift of gab and luckily a strong immune system!
3. I hung out with actual Welch Rubgy players in Wales. To be real honest, they might not have been rugby players but they were Welch and a ton of fun! I recommend that anyone in college take advantage of traveling abroad - it will change your life.
4. I have roughed it in the wilderness in the BWCA (Boundary Waters Canoe Area) in northern Minnesota. No phones, beds, or running water. I carried 50 pound packs on my back, canoes, pumped water to drink, and made food over a campfire. It was some of the toughest work I have ever done and also the most satisfying. On one of those trips I also went cliff jumping . Thanks to our fearless leader Nancy for she jumped first to make sure it was safe. It was a total rush and I want to do it again. As much as I love sitting by the beach relaxing, there is something awesome about roughing it.
5. I married a man who respects me and my dreams. He is a generous and compassionate person who has the same desire to do well in this world. He loves his daughters and would lay down his life for any of us. This is a true gift.
6. I completed my first ever triathlon when I was six months pregnant. I remember kissing my husband before the race and he looked at me and said, "Be safe." I knew he was going to be a good dad right at that moment. I crossed the finish line with my friend Jen in under two hours. I recall taking a two hour nap and then we headed down to Murray's Steak house for the famous butter knife steak. Nothing better then earning a fine meal.
7. I bruised my ribs in a boogie board accident in Hawaii. One of the most painful injuries in my recent history but well worth the embarrassing memories (and six-plus week recovery!).
8. I had two natural childbirths. To some this might not seem like much but to those that have given birth - it is a big deal! Thank goodness for yoga and breathing. I am thankful for a strong body and two healthy children.
9. I found a career where when I come home I feel like I have made a difference in my community. I am a role model, a motivator and I hope that people view me as a good person.
10. I moved to Florida before I was 65!
I could go on with more things but the point is to do a quick reflection. This can easily tie into the practice of yoga. Many times we offer a pose to try for participants and a lot of people simply say, " I cannot do that." What we need to realize is that the final look of any pose is always a journey. One person's trikonasana is not another's. There is not one defined way to reach a pose, we each get there at our own pace and with our own abilities. I think that is why I have been so drawn to yoga over the years, there are not absolutes, just suggestions. Like life, yoga is not about what we have not done but where we have been and are continuing to go with our practice.
So, to all of us who are still trying to figure out what we are going to do when we grow up, stop worrying, reflect upon what we have done so far and enjoy the journey. Work and play hard and before we know it, work and play become the same thing. Try that funky yoga pose, go sky-diving (or something outside our comfort zone), hug the ones you love AND hug those that challenge us for they need it, too.
May the light in my heart honor the light in your heart.
Namaste
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
Halfway empty? No way, halfway full!
“It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come." - Dalai Lama
The Christmas holiday has passed, we are into the New Year and it also marks our 6 month anniversary as Floridians. It was a wild and crazy 2012 to say the least. I am still in awe that it has already been 6 months since we packed up our car and waved goodbye to Minnesota that hot July day. I hear it is about 2 degrees back in Minne"snow"ta while we all shiver here at about 75 degrees.
The year 2012 will go down in history for the MacMillan family as one giant year. As I reflect upon all that we were handed over the last 12 months I am amazed at all that we experienced as a family, as individuals and as a community in this world.
As I was biking to the Y last week I was thinking about a very important part of life: attitude.
I just read an article in one of my fitness magazines that stated that simply smiling can lower your heart rate when you are stressed out. Did you know that grumpy people's heart rates stayed elevated longer during a stressful time then those that put on a true grin? Just another reason to live by the lyrics, "So put on a happy face!"
I think looking forward with a positive attitude really makes the difference in our lives. I have been lucky to be surrounded by a lot of people that have great attitudes. This is not to say that these people are always happy. It is not easy to always be happy and I do not necessarily believe we always need to be happy. There are times when we feel down, lonely, anxious or my favorite term, "Blah." Yet, I think we can turn these feelings around by simply examining that good old notion," Is the glass half empty or half full?"
Yoga is a great way to shift a negative mood into a positive one. In the book written by Swami Shankarananda, Carrot in My Ear, he says, "The attitude of yoga is of total responsibility. We are responsible for our lives, our society, our actions. Every moment in time is a new opportunity. You are at a crossroads with two paths. Every moment the same choice is available. Every moment wipes out the past and gives you a new possibility. If you chose wrongly in the last moment, choose correctly now. The choice is always the same-downward to ignorance and depression, or upward to joy and insight. In every moment, there is hope and a fresh choice."
We all have experiences in our lives where attitude really influences the outcome. How often have we been driving in the car, excited about where we were going and then traffic totally takes the joy out of the journey? Hopefully we are able to let go of these negative thoughts and move on but many would agree that it is not always that easy.
Yoga leads us to pathways of inner strength that is refined and firm, yet also gentle and accepting. There are many ways to practice yoga and they can vary broadly in the areas of physical postures and philosophy. Certain types of yoga include rigorous or gentle rounds of postures, self-inquiry, repetition of mantra, techniques of meditation and compassion for yourself or others. Although different types of yoga can vary in these realms, all the traditions offer suggestions to embrace an attitude that is purposeful and flexible.
I have noticed over the years that sometimes just getting to a yoga class is all we need to change our attitudes. I have seen many people enter a yoga class completely flustered and by the end of practice you can just feel the overall blood pressure of the room slow down. It is important that we each spend quiet time so we can calm our minds and renew our bodies.
Hindu philosopher, Kashmir Shaivism, recommends embracing the fluctuations of mood and working with them. We can acknowledge the complete range of human experience through meditation and self-inquiry to achieve higher states of consciousness. One way of doing this is to look inside ourselves to identify what we are thinking and shift our series of thoughts to a more positive state when we are in a negative mood. I have found that simply repeating a positive mantra helps to dissolve the chatter of the mind to create a more uplifting thought process. I recently heard a great mantra in class the other day, "Breathe in light, breathe out love."
I believe that any type of yoga practice calls for an attitude of an open heart and mind. Most of us who have been practicing yoga start to realize over time that yoga is more than just doing poses or even meditating. We begin to see that our yoga practice is more about an attitude or an approach to life.
So as I look at how we have handled the last 6 months of great change, I think attitude has been everything. I could have sat around crying about being away from everyone and everything that I have ever known but instead I went out searching for what I needed to make me more whole. That is not to say that I have not struggled (or am still struggling) with feelings of lose, loneliness, and sadness but being able to practice yoga and look inside keeps me grounded. I am grateful for the experiences that I have been given over these past 6 months - both good and bad. I look at these experiences as personal growth in my yoga practice or more so, my approach to life.
So as we enter this New Year of 2013, may we all truly smile and take time to smell the roses (or in my case, the salty air!).
May we each inhale light and exhale love.
Namaste
The Christmas holiday has passed, we are into the New Year and it also marks our 6 month anniversary as Floridians. It was a wild and crazy 2012 to say the least. I am still in awe that it has already been 6 months since we packed up our car and waved goodbye to Minnesota that hot July day. I hear it is about 2 degrees back in Minne"snow"ta while we all shiver here at about 75 degrees.
The year 2012 will go down in history for the MacMillan family as one giant year. As I reflect upon all that we were handed over the last 12 months I am amazed at all that we experienced as a family, as individuals and as a community in this world.
As I was biking to the Y last week I was thinking about a very important part of life: attitude.
I just read an article in one of my fitness magazines that stated that simply smiling can lower your heart rate when you are stressed out. Did you know that grumpy people's heart rates stayed elevated longer during a stressful time then those that put on a true grin? Just another reason to live by the lyrics, "So put on a happy face!"
I think looking forward with a positive attitude really makes the difference in our lives. I have been lucky to be surrounded by a lot of people that have great attitudes. This is not to say that these people are always happy. It is not easy to always be happy and I do not necessarily believe we always need to be happy. There are times when we feel down, lonely, anxious or my favorite term, "Blah." Yet, I think we can turn these feelings around by simply examining that good old notion," Is the glass half empty or half full?"
Yoga is a great way to shift a negative mood into a positive one. In the book written by Swami Shankarananda, Carrot in My Ear, he says, "The attitude of yoga is of total responsibility. We are responsible for our lives, our society, our actions. Every moment in time is a new opportunity. You are at a crossroads with two paths. Every moment the same choice is available. Every moment wipes out the past and gives you a new possibility. If you chose wrongly in the last moment, choose correctly now. The choice is always the same-downward to ignorance and depression, or upward to joy and insight. In every moment, there is hope and a fresh choice."
We all have experiences in our lives where attitude really influences the outcome. How often have we been driving in the car, excited about where we were going and then traffic totally takes the joy out of the journey? Hopefully we are able to let go of these negative thoughts and move on but many would agree that it is not always that easy.
Yoga leads us to pathways of inner strength that is refined and firm, yet also gentle and accepting. There are many ways to practice yoga and they can vary broadly in the areas of physical postures and philosophy. Certain types of yoga include rigorous or gentle rounds of postures, self-inquiry, repetition of mantra, techniques of meditation and compassion for yourself or others. Although different types of yoga can vary in these realms, all the traditions offer suggestions to embrace an attitude that is purposeful and flexible.
I have noticed over the years that sometimes just getting to a yoga class is all we need to change our attitudes. I have seen many people enter a yoga class completely flustered and by the end of practice you can just feel the overall blood pressure of the room slow down. It is important that we each spend quiet time so we can calm our minds and renew our bodies.
Hindu philosopher, Kashmir Shaivism, recommends embracing the fluctuations of mood and working with them. We can acknowledge the complete range of human experience through meditation and self-inquiry to achieve higher states of consciousness. One way of doing this is to look inside ourselves to identify what we are thinking and shift our series of thoughts to a more positive state when we are in a negative mood. I have found that simply repeating a positive mantra helps to dissolve the chatter of the mind to create a more uplifting thought process. I recently heard a great mantra in class the other day, "Breathe in light, breathe out love."
I believe that any type of yoga practice calls for an attitude of an open heart and mind. Most of us who have been practicing yoga start to realize over time that yoga is more than just doing poses or even meditating. We begin to see that our yoga practice is more about an attitude or an approach to life.
So as I look at how we have handled the last 6 months of great change, I think attitude has been everything. I could have sat around crying about being away from everyone and everything that I have ever known but instead I went out searching for what I needed to make me more whole. That is not to say that I have not struggled (or am still struggling) with feelings of lose, loneliness, and sadness but being able to practice yoga and look inside keeps me grounded. I am grateful for the experiences that I have been given over these past 6 months - both good and bad. I look at these experiences as personal growth in my yoga practice or more so, my approach to life.
So as we enter this New Year of 2013, may we all truly smile and take time to smell the roses (or in my case, the salty air!).
May we each inhale light and exhale love.
Namaste
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